1. If you loved the books / love the movie, great. But if you didn't see any abusive elements in it, high thee to a critique--not to ruin your enjoyment of it, but cause you need a primer on (a) what's abusive, and (b) what's healthy BDSM. Look, I love the Star Wars movies, doesn't mean I can't see what shite in them.
2. If you're critical of the story, then be specific and stop talking about bored or repressed housewives,--that's LAZY AND SEXIST. And don't talk down about the people who loved it. No one likes being condescended to, and it just makes them more entrenched and less likely to hear you.
3. If you think what's wrong with the story is that it involves kinky sex, then you probably (a) don't know much about what a proper BDSM relationship is supposed to be, and (b) you're probably way more conservative than me, so... there's not a big basis for conversation.
No, I will not see the movie/read the books in order to Judge for Myself. I've read (literally) minute-by-minute descriptions online. If that's good enough for radio sports commentating, then it's good enough for me.